It can be a simple picnic at the beach, sipping coffee at your favorite shop, or a movie night. You need time away and your children need to know others adults can meet their needs. It is best to build this into your monthly or even better your weekly routine. Your first date can also be during the day if you think that is a better time for your family.
When you get the right sitter, she becomes part of your extended family. Your children look forward to her visit. This is especially true for families who do not have extended family close by. Having a trusted sitter who you can turn to when you need one gives a family peace of mind.
The best time to introduce a sitter is when your child is under 6 months old. The child will not have separation anxiety and will be able to accept a warm caring person. If you have older children have the sitter come over for an afternoon when you are able to be home. Allow the child to spend time playing and getting to know the sitter as you step back. Be excited and happy as the process unfolds. When your child accepts others you have given your children wings to fly and should feel proud of yourself and your children.
Your children will feel empowered when they can show the sitter how things are done in their home. Children learn there is more then one way to do tasks and get a feeling of pride as they accomplish a task without their parents support. They will be excited to share their new skills with you and will be want to hear about what you did when you were not together. This is a great stepping-stone for when they go off to school.
Below are 10 tips to help promote success with a sitter. Remember you are allowing your children to grow and develop new skills and you will be a better parent when you get time away. This leads to a happier more harmonious home life.
- Have the sitter come one time when you are also there so the child can meet the sitter and feel comfortable. Let the child give the sitter a tour of the house including the child’s room.
- Tell your child ahead of time that you will be going out. You can even mark it off on a calendar! For some children you can tell them a day or 2 before, other children need more time. You know your child best.
- Tell your child about the fun things the sitter will be able to do with them. Get your child excited for the experience!
- Have your basic schedule written out so the sitter knows the routine and is able to follow it. Anytime Sitter’s Communication Guide* is the perfect resource so the sitter will know just what to do and when to do it. Let your child help fill it out.
- Leave a picture of your self for your child to carry with them. It is best to laminate it so the picture can go everywhere with your child.
- Having the sitter get out of the house with your child for a little while is a great way to set everyone up for success. Going to the park is a great way to get exercise and make the experience fun!
- Make dinner or mealtime special. Let the sitter order pizza or make something that is a treat your child will really enjoy. Your child can pick out their favorite pizza to order or even help you shop for the food!
- For nighttime have your child pick out a special story to be read or think of other relaxing activities that will aid in their bedtime routine.
- Leave an envelope with a special letter to be read by the sitter telling your child good night and sealed with a kiss. If you have more then one child it is great to leave one for each child.
- Do not tell your child how much you will miss them and apologize for going out. This will confuse them and could make them feel bad. You will be a better parent if you get a break and have a little fun for yourself. When you are comfortable about going out your child will know it is ok to relax and have fun too!
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